Boundaries as Rebellion
Why saying “no” isn’t selfish—it’s revolutionary.
Hello Brave Ones,
Let’s talk about boundaries—the kind that make you uncomfortable.
We’ve been taught to believe that saying “no” is selfish. That setting boundaries makes us difficult. That putting our needs first is somehow a betrayal of others. But let me tell you something: those are lies.
Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re survival.
In a world that profits from your compliance, setting a boundary is an act of rebellion. It’s a way of saying, “This is my energy, my time, my life—and I get to decide what I allow into it.”
But here’s the truth about boundaries: they’re not just about keeping things out. They’re about creating space—space for yourself, for your truth, for the kind of life you deserve.
Boundaries Saved My Life
For most of my life, I thought saying “yes” was my job. Yes to the expectations of others. Yes to the roles I was supposed to play. Yes to the idea that my worth was tied to how much I could be who they wanted me to be, how much I could endure, how much of myself I could sacrifice.
I didn’t just avoid setting boundaries—I didn’t even know I was allowed to have them.
But living like that took a toll. I spent years trying to hold it all together, trying to meet everyone else’s needs while ignoring my own. And the truth is, it almost broke me.
I’ll never forget the moment I decided it had to stop. I had been saying “yes” to everything and everyone for so long that I didn’t even know what I wanted anymore. My life wasn’t mine—it was a collection of obligations, expectations, and roles that I had outgrown or never identified with, but couldn’t seem to let go of.
Then one day, I made a choice. I drew a line. I said “no” to the things that were draining me, even though I knew chaos would follow. And it did. People weren’t happy. They didn’t understand.
But here’s what I learned: the people who can’t handle your boundaries are the ones who benefit from you not having them. (cliche, but true)
The more I said “no” to what wasn’t mine, the more space I created for what was. And in that space, I found myself again.
Boundaries didn’t just save my life—they gave it back to me.
This Week’s Tool for Transformation
This week, I want you to practice setting one boundary. Here’s how to start:
Identify What’s Draining You:
What’s one thing you’ve been saying “yes” to that feels like a “no” in your body? It might be a commitment, a relationship dynamic, or even an expectation you’ve placed on yourself.
Give Yourself Permission:
Remind yourself that your energy is precious. You don’t owe anyone your time, your energy, or your attention.
Practice Your “No”:
Write it down. Say it out loud. Imagine yourself saying it with calm, grounded confidence. It doesn’t have to be dramatic or defensive—just clear and firm.
Take One Bold Step:
This week, practice setting a boundary in real time. It might feel uncomfortable, but remember: discomfort is the price of freedom.
Empowering Music for the Week
This week, I’m turning to “You Don’t Own Me” by Lesley Gore.
Let this anthem remind you that you are in control of your life. Your boundaries are not barriers—they’re bridges to the life you deserve.
What’s Next
Next week, we’re exploring how Self-Worth Isn’t Optional: Reclaiming your value in a society that thrives on your insecurity.
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Audio Guide: "The Power of No: How Boundaries Redefine Your Life"
In this guide, we’ll explore how boundaries are not just acts of self-protection but tools for self-definition. I’ll share how saying “no” creates space for your truth and why learning to set boundaries unapologetically can radically transform your life.
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Challenge Title: "Practice Your Power: Saying No with Clarity"
This challenge will help you identify where you’ve been saying “yes” when you really mean “no.” I’ll guide you in taking one bold step this week to set a boundary that protects your energy and honors your truth unapologetically.
Unfiltered Moment
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re not barriers to connection or rejection in disguise. They’re bridges—to your truth, to your freedom, and to a life that feels like your own.
This week, I challenge you to honor yourself with one small act of rebellion. Set a boundary that protects your energy, your time, and your worth.
And remember this: you don’t owe anyone an explanation for honoring yourself. Your “no” is enough.
The world doesn’t need your compliance—it needs your truth.
With love and rebellion,
Dee
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