Finding Your Steady Ground

Hey,

If you’re feeling the weight of things right now—the disconnection, the division—I get it. This isn’t an easy time for so many of us. It’s unsettling to feel like the ground beneath us isn’t as steady as it used to be, especially when it feels like half the world is looking in a different direction from where we stand.

But here’s the thing: when the world feels like it’s spinning out of control, the most powerful, most therapeutic thing we can do is go inward. I don’t mean that in a “pretend it’s all okay” way or a “just focus on the positive” way. I mean going inward as a conscious, radical act. Because no matter how chaotic things get on the outside, we still have access to the one thing we actually can control—our own minds.

Right now, it might feel like there’s no way to affect what’s going on around us, but we can absolutely affect what’s going on inside of us. Our brains may be wired to go into fight-or-flight mode when we’re faced with uncertainty, but the beauty is that we can train our minds to find stability, even in the storm.

Think of it this way: when we spend all our energy resisting, reacting, and obsessing over things outside our control, we lose our power. But when we decide to turn inward and work on the thoughts, feelings, and reactions happening in our own minds, we’re taking back that power. We’re telling our brains that no matter what’s going on out there, we’re safe within ourselves.

This isn’t about ignoring the world; it’s about anchoring ourselves so we can show up for it from a place of strength. We get to be the ones who decide what we focus on, how we interpret what’s happening, and how we choose to respond. And when we do that? We’re building resilience. We’re giving ourselves the chance to create calm and stability from within, instead of letting the outside world dictate how we feel.

So if it feels like everything’s spinning out of control, remember that you have the power to press pause, to get still, and to reconnect with the part of you that’s steady. We can choose how we respond, and in doing that, we start to shape our own experience—no matter what’s happening outside.

With you,
Dee

P.S. In January, I’ll be starting a new round of Empowerment Healing Circles. These are small, intimate spaces for women to come together, connect, and support each other through the deep work of healing and resilience. If you’re interested, keep an eye out for more details. REGISTER HERE

P.S.S. And for anyone who’s already dreading the holiday gatherings or grappling with family dynamics right now, I’ll be sharing some guidance soon on how to handle the holidays with more peace and less stress. You don’t have to navigate this alone.