Power Doesn’t Always Look Like You Think It Should
I used to think power had a certain look.
Like red lipstick and good posture.
Like clear schedules and morning routines.
Like confidence in a tailored blazer.
Like speaking on panels or writing books or building empires.
And sometimes?
It does look like that.
But not always.
Sometimes power looks like answering the phone and saying, “I can’t talk right now.”
Sometimes it’s saying no without a reason.
Sometimes it’s crying in the shower instead of snapping at someone.
Sometimes it’s not replying to the text.
Sometimes it’s putting the project down—even though it was a good idea—because your body is saying no.
Sometimes power looks like resting in the middle of a messy room
or taking a nap instead of taking a stand.
There’s a version of power that isn’t loud or curated or Instagrammable.
It lives in your bones.
It whispers instead of shouts.
It walks away instead of begging to be understood.
"Power is not in how much you do.
Power is in how deeply you listen—and what you choose after."
The most powerful I’ve ever felt wasn’t when I was on.
It was when I stopped explaining.
Stopped proving.
Stopped pretending I was fine.
It was the moment I said, “I trust myself more than I trust their reaction.”
It didn’t look like much.
No one clapped.
But I felt the ground shift.
And sometimes that’s all the confirmation you need.
If your power doesn’t look polished right now—
If it’s quiet, shaky, raw, or in process—
That doesn’t make it less real.
Let it look like what it looks like.
You don’t have to dress it up.
You don’t have to translate it.
You don’t have to make it pretty for people who wouldn’t recognize it anyway.
Your power is yours.
Even here.
Even now.
Even like this.
—
Dee
(In your corner, always.)