Stop Absorbing What Was Never Yours

Let’s talk about the energy you carry—and how often it gets drained by things that were never yours to hold.

You can be grounded, clear, and soft…
but if you’re absorbing everyone else’s emotions, fixing things that aren’t your responsibility, or being pulled into every undercurrent of chaos—

You’re not in your power.
You’re in someone else’s.

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Soft power doesn’t mean being porous.
It means being sovereign.

It’s walking into a room and holding your own energy like it’s sacred.
It’s noticing someone’s pain without needing to carry it.
It’s feeling someone’s urgency and choosing not to make it your emergency.

Soft power doesn’t reach for control.
It reaches for clarity.

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For so many of us—especially those of us raised to be caretakers, mediators, emotional barometers—this is deep work.

We learned to scan the room for danger.
To anticipate moods.
To keep things calm and keep people happy.

But that’s not intuition. That’s conditioning.
That’s survival mode.

And survival mode is not your home.

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Energetic sovereignty sounds like:

• “That’s not mine to manage.”

• “I’m not responsible for how they receive my boundary.”

• “I can witness this without merging with it.”

• “I don’t need to overextend to be loved.”

This isn’t about disconnection.
It’s about discernment.

It’s about knowing the difference between being supportive and being drained.
Between being compassionate and being consumed.
Between being open-hearted and being wide open with no gate.

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Soft power is magnetic because it’s protected.
It doesn’t leak.
It doesn’t chase.
It doesn’t prove.

It knows where it ends and where the world begins.

That’s what makes it strong.
That’s what makes it sovereign.

—
Dee
(In your corner, always.)