We’re All Still Learning
You don’t have to know it all to trust yourself. Here’s how I’m learning to stop performing and start listening to my own wisdom again—plus a tool to help you do the same.
The more I grow, the less I trust anyone who claims to have it all figured out.
Not because they’re wrong.
But because no one is done.
Not one of us.
We’re all still learning.
We’re all still unlearning.
Even the ones who sound sure, who stand on stages, who speak with confidence.
Especially them.
And I get it.
We’ve been trained to look outside ourselves.
To wait for someone to tell us what’s true, what’s right, what’s real.
We’ve been taught that certainty is value, that performance is credibility, that if we don’t know it all, we shouldn’t say anything at all.
So we perform.
We script.
We present ourselves polished and perfected because god forbid we say, I’m still figuring this out.
But here’s what I know now:
Real authority doesn’t come from knowing everything.
It comes from being honest about what you’re learning… and still choosing to show up.
There is power in saying, I don’t know yet, but I’m listening.
There is courage in saying, I’m not the expert on your life—you are.
And there is deep integrity in rooting into your own wisdom instead of reaching for someone else’s approval.
This world will try to convince you that your power lies in looking certain.
But your freedom is in being real.
I’ll take that every time.
A tool I’d like to leave you with
If you want to tap into your inner wisdom, start here.
You don’t have to retreat for 40 days or delete every app.
You just have to practice coming home to yourself again.
A little at a time.
1. Get quiet—without performing peace
Sit somewhere—your car, your porch, the bathroom floor.
Close your eyes.
Drop the pressure to “meditate.” Just breathe.
Let your body speak without rushing it to make sense.
2. Ask: What do I actually feel right now?
Not what you should feel.
Not what you told someone else you feel.
But what’s real—underneath the performance.
3. Listen without fixing
Let your answer be enough.
You don’t need to reframe it, repackage it, or justify it.
This part is about building trust. Not doing it “right.”
4. Watch what rises
Sometimes your inner wisdom whispers.
Sometimes it punches the wall.
Sometimes it says nothing at all for days.
Don’t force it. Just keep showing up.
5. Choose one tiny thing in alignment
What’s one small way you can honor what you heard?
It might be saying no.
It might be resting.
It might be letting the tears fall.
Acting on your truth—even in micro-moments—is how trust builds.
Your inner wisdom doesn’t need a megaphone.
It just needs you to stop abandoning it.
It’s been with you the whole time.
If you need an ear, message me.
If you need a witness, I’m here.
Dee