When You Want to Ghost Everyone and Disappear
Let’s talk about that feeling.
The one where your phone pings and your whole body says: no.
Where even replying “I’ll get back to you later” feels like too much.
Where you want to turn off the world, crawl under something heavy, and just vanish for a while.
Not because you’re cold.
Not because you’re flaky.
But because you’re done.
Overstimulated. Tapped out. Fried.
And instead of performing connection—you want silence.
I used to feel ashamed when this happened.
Like I was being a bad friend.
Like I was failing at community.
Like I was supposed to keep showing up—responsive, warm, present—even when I was empty.
But now I know better.
Sometimes disappearing for a little while is the medicine.
Sometimes not answering is the clearest boundary I can set.
Sometimes silence is what my nervous system is screaming for.
And instead of forcing myself to keep performing care, I’ve learned to extend that care inward first.
Soft power means knowing when to step back.
It’s not about ghosting from avoidance.
It’s about reclaiming your center.
It’s about honoring that urge to retreat as wisdom, not failure.
It’s letting your body lead, instead of your conditioning.
And when you do come back, you’re not returning from resentment or depletion—you’re returning from wholeness.
So if you’ve been fantasizing about disappearing right now:
Take the pressure off.
Don’t answer right away.
Let yourself pull back without guilt.
Go quiet without explanation.
You don’t have to explain your need for stillness.
You don’t owe access to everyone.
You’re not a bad person for needing a break from connection to reconnect with yourself.
The most powerful people I know are the ones who know when to pause.
And don’t need to be seen to be okay.
Take your time.
Turn the volume down.
Go where the peace is.
You’re not gone—you’re just coming home.
—
Dee
(In your corner, always.)